There is only one way to never get caught cheating on your partner and that is not to do it. While that may seem quite simple, it is a problem that most relationships will face. Now this could just be the cynic in me, but most people tend to put themselves first. Perhaps relationships have evolved to the point where one person can no longer meet all the needs of another person.
Whatever the reason, the sad fact is that most people will be effected by cheating one way or another. Personally, I have been on all sides of this situation, the cheater, the person that was cheated on and the other woman. So if you don’t think that you can trust your partner when they are going for a night out (and your gut feeling is normally always right), then here are some ways that you can catch them out.
Firstly, in this day and age there is no such thing as privacy, so something that is a “secret” between two people is never just that. There is always someone that will be blabbed to. The guy I was with once got caught out by me telling my friend, who told her friend who happened to be his girlfriend’s friend and in turn told her. See how the cycle goes? Now lets pretend that its a boy/girl relationship and the girl is worried. While his mates may not tell you, “bros before hoes” and all that, one of their girlfriends might. Never underestimate pillow talk, generally the partner will know. So I would advise that she becomes close with the mate’s girlfriends, maybe even have a couple of girls nights when the boys are out. Building up a strong friendship with them will help when they hear something that could hurt you.
Secondly, most questions can now be answered by the internet. While it may not be a case of typing into Google “Is Adam Smith cheating one me?”, there are other ways that information can be found. Facebook is a stalking girlfriend’s best friend. Not just photos that his mates upload but also ones directly from the clubs page. Those sneaky photographers can catch something without meaning to, take Robin Thicke’s latest Twitter photo disaster for example.
Hopefully these suggestions can help put your mind at ease or show how easy it is to get caught. If this has any of you trying to justify your behaviour, then you’re probably in the cheating boat. There are no excuses, the alcohol didn’t make you do it or you knew the relationship was basically over so it doesn’t count. If you can’t trust yourself or your partner having a night out then get out of the relationship and if you want, wait for them to grow up. Trust me, with age comes wisdom and eventually people see the errors of their ways.