Sometimes it’s hard when opposites attract in relationships. You like to go out and drink and have fun and your partner isn’t into that. It might not even be opposites, it might be that your partner is working or that they’re sick or even that they’ve grown out of their clubbing phase and you’re still in the midst of it. Whatever the reason, having a partner that is unenthusiastic about your weekend adventures can make it hard to have fun while still keeping to their wishes.
It can be compromised on both ends; maybe you come home earlier and they can pick you up, or maybe you text them every hour to keep them happy. But if your partner doesn’t want to go out with you, they can’t blame you for wanting to go out without them. While it’s respectful to adhere to some of your partners wishes, you can’t let them hold you back and not enjoy your night. Otherwise there will be a lot of resentment towards each other and it will take its toll on the relationship. Here are some tips about how to deal with the partner that wants to put you on a leash.
1. They Message You Constantly
When your partner constantly messages you and demands a reply straight away, it can get irritating when you are trying to enjoy your night out. Reply when you can, but don’t reply every single time straight away. They will get used to this and will expect it every time. Explain to them in a nice way that you are having fun and will text them when you can. Tell them you miss them, because guaranteed they are missing you.
2. They Make Spiteful Comments
Ignore it. Don’t text them back because it will make it worse and they will resent you every time you go out. Just ignore the comments and acknowledge how they feel, but let them know that they don’t have to do it in that manner. It will push you away and make you want to go out more.
3. They Don’t Talk To You All Night
While some may think this is a blessing, it’s really not. It means that they are sulking. And sure as hell they will be shitty about it when you get home.
4. They Don’t Want You To Drink
For whatever reason, it’s your decision and no one else’s. Tell them that you understand their reason, but that you feel that you can handle it and that you want to go and have a good time with your friends. They will eventually get over it.
Always remember that your partner cares about you and out of everything, that matters the most. But this shouldn’t make you not enjoy your night because they are dragging you down.
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