There have been many crazy theories about love and attraction throughout the years from whether girls like being treated like crap by guys to whether a silly pick up line will impress a woman enough for her to sleep with you. Another big one is whether two completely different people can be a perfect match for one another. Many people believe this to be the case, but can opposites really attract?
Well, yes and no, more so no though. The only real difference people use to want is their partner to be the opposite sex, and even that’s not a prerequisite anymore. Think about times when you have to do small talk with people whom you’ve never met or have no real interest in talking to but have to anyway, like a friend’s relative or a bank teller. It’ll also often be some dull subject like the weather (everyone’s had that conversation!). If it weren’t for the circumstances, you wouldn’t be talking to this person at all.
To properly explain what I’m getting at, let me explain some things people can have in common.
1. Common Interests
If you have no common interests, prepare for awkward silence. Though simple things liking the same TV shows or music can help you two carry a conversation for a while, that’s incidental. No matter how full on that episode of Breaking Bad was or how much the finale of Dexter was a let down, neither of you will want to keep talking about TV forever if TV shows are the only thing you have in common.
2. Personalities
Peeps have this romantic ideal that two completely different people can fall for each other, but in reality when two different people are together, there’s usually an awkward silence or they clash somehow. It cracks me up whenever people try to set their friends up with their partner’s friend, and to see they have no common ground; trust me, it just does not work.
3. Race And Culture
Though of course there’s plenty of interracial couples out there, and I myself used to have an Asian fetish (I’m a typical white male like that, I know) and I’ve been going out with a Macedonian girl for six years now, but racial and cultural differences will always to some extent get in the way. Though many of us like how exotic hotties from other races are, the differences in lifestyle and pressures from either side’s parents will dampen things. Sometimes people like to play it safe and take it easy with someone from a culture they grew up in.
If you and your potential partner are nothing alike, of course you two will clash and what you two have going with each other will falter and cause much frustration. For a long lasting relationship, you need a deep connection, be very similar at a core level. My girlfriend and I don’t have much in common at all; music, movies, views, cultures, showing affection, you name it. So why have we stuck together? Because deep down, we are much the same: quiet, reserved, and even insecure. These core parts of our identity are what we have in common, and though those traits I mentioned might be considered negative traits, it’s kept us together.
Yet again, if everyone was the same, life would be really boring, so it is good to spice things up with someone different to peeps you’ve hooked up with in the past.