When you’re out hitting the clubs, there is nothing worse than getting followed around by a guy that is nice, but way too keen. If you are not interested in him and you try to drop a few hints but nothing works, than there is a full-proof way to ensure that you don’t waste your night dodging a guy. This method is also a great way to deter guys from you when you are in a relationship and just trying to have a good night out with the girls.
Step 1: Try to stay away from guys that are dancing or sitting by themselves. It is more likely for a guy to start dancing around you if they are alone looking for someone to dance with. If they are in a group of guys they may also be looking for a lady, but it is more likely that they are just having a boys night out.
Step 2: Stay with your girlfriends. It is just common sense that girls are more susceptible to getting into a bad situation if they are left alone. The same goes for when guys are looking for girls. They find it easier to talk to girls that are by themselves than in groups.
Step 3: Avoid too much eye contact with any one person. Sometimes eye contact is the biggest way to flirt with another person and if someone is using their eyes to get your attention than it is best to avoid giving them an invitation to come over. A polite smile from you could be just what they are looking for to show them that you could be their date for the night, so you may want to focus on the people you are with.
Step 4: Act as though you are completely oblivious to anyone that tries to hit on you with a pick up line or let them know that you don’t want a drink, because you already have one. Make sure you can back up your excuses too by actually having a drink or two with you to show that they won’t be able to get your attention for at least the next hour.
Step 5: Ignore them. If the first few signals have failed and they start to be tentative towards you, then this is the time to ignore. It is the biggest signal in the world to a guy that a girl does not have time for them. It says ‘I have no interest’. Although it is not as obvious as the actual words and it can be a harsh way to reject someone, sometimes drastic times call for drastic measures, so act really interested in something that someone else is doing or saying.
Step 6: Physically dodge them. Things have become serious now, so make sure that you are ready to go into battle mode as you weave through the club to avoid him. I have tried this scenario multiple times and it has worked, yet there is a downside. I was in a club trying to avoid two guys and suddenly the guy I had done a runner from at a previous club was staring me in the face and smiling, so this method may not be the end of the situation.
Step 7: Put on a professional persona. Guys like girls that have been drinking too much or having so much fun that they will be an easy date for the night. Most guys would deter from girls that start to talk in a serious or ‘boring’ manner. So try to talk about politics and economics, they are killers for guys trying to get an easy girl.
Step 8: Escape time. It is time to let them know that it is not going to happen. If they start to get more into you than you need an escape route and the ladies toilets are the best excuse. You can let them know that you need to go to the bathroom with the girls and you can hang out there and get a chance to tell them what is going on.
Step 9: Time to lie, maybe. If you have tried escaping and failed as I have done many times, than it is time to pull out the big guns with what may be a completely harmless white lie. If you want to be honest, let them know that they are sweet but you are not interested. On the other hand, you can say that you are in a relationship and that your boyfriend will be there in any minute. Most guys will go running from you, but some toughies may think that they could take a fight for you, so be careful with what you do say.
Step 10: Run now! If all else fails make sure you get a re-entry stamp and change clubs. If they really want to follow you than you can get security onto it, but past this point you should be home free. Enjoy the rest of your night and remember the steps to avoiding those unwanted charmers.
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