The question everyone asks after a night out is what did I do last night? In the case of hooking up with someone, there are so many more questions that need to be answered.
Who was he/she?
The first thing we think about after we get over the hangover is… who in the world was I with last night? Retracing each and every moment can turn any memory into a nightmare after a few drinks. The person that you spent the night with could have been the man of your dreams or the guy you aim to dodge in the future.
Ask your friends or whoever was with you what happened, but make sure to be cautious of what they say or show you. Not all clubbing scenes are the most appropriate from the night before, some things may be best left in the past.
When did it happen?
If you can begin to remember parts of the night and what you did, but you can’t exactly remember when during the night it happened, you may have had one too many drinks which have caused your memories of the night to become confusing and complicated. As long as you know your mates were looking out for you, everything should have been alright. It also depends if they had too much to drink as well, because they may not remember you if you remember them. The drinking game can be the worst way of meeting a potential partner.
Where did we meet?
Obviously you had to have met in the club or on the street outside of the club. Either way, you know where they hang out, or where they could possibly be next. So if you want to see if there is anything worth continuing, you can always go back to the start where it all happened.
What did we do and why?
Sometimes you have to start to self reflect on an issue and work out what you did and why you did it. Was it just for a bit of fun, or are you seriously after a relationship that lasts more than 4 hours? Before you give them a call back or accept a call back, you have to think about what you want out of this situation. If not, there is always the option to walk away from a night out’s consequences.
What do they do for a living?
If you have decided to catch up and work out what happened or just see them for a drink or two, it is best to find out their interests as conversation topics (no more than two alcoholic drinks, because the same situation could happen all over again - the good and the bad). Don’t talk too much about yourself, but if you find that there is something between you and this ‘one-night stand guy or gal’ then you can use this conversation to get more information about them. What are their ambitions? Will anything happen after this drink? Can this actually work? All the questions can be answered, if you know how to ask them.
Remember that intoxicated people can be very different when they are sober.
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