1. You have a boyfriend? Fuck you!
You are in a club having a nice conversation with someone at the bar as you naturally need something to do while you wait. You get talking about some ‘common’ ground (you like movies too?). Maybe it’s on purpose, maybe not, but you slip in the “yeah, my boyfriend blah blah”. Suddenly the bar line friend’s smile turns into a glare. He starts yelling abuse at you about leading him on. It’s typical that’ll he’ll generalise about girls as a whole species- “girls always do this, you’re all such bitches”. He’s mad that you wasted his time. These kind of reactions should make you happy you have a boyfriend. Imagine if you hadn’t, then you would have never seen their true side and motives.
2. I wish you didn’t have a boyfriend, why do you have to have one!
This usually happens when the he already knows you have a boyfriend before you start talking. He gets all dreamy eyed seeming to be reminiscing on something that hadn’t ever actually happened. The slurred speech adds to the pathetic puppy dog look. He’ll act all like he respects your relationship and say things like “your boyfriend is so lucky”. He will probably try for sympathy vote with “why can’t I find a girl like you”. As though you are going to break up with your boyfriend just because this guy wishes you didn’t have one.
3. Then you should go back to him…
This is the cockiest response. Your a girl, he’s a guy you’re talking to. You drop the B word. His brow furrows as he puts on an expression of concern. He places his hand on your shoulder and holds you at arms length. “You should go to your boyfriend”. Basically, his reaction to a taken person talking to him is that they intend to cheat and that it’s up to him to be the better man and stop this from happening. Okay, so it’s a nicer reaction than others, but it’s arrogant. This guy is up himself and/or doesn’t believe in platonic relationships.
4. Yeah, well me too!
This is the defensive guy. Maybe he was interested in you authentically, maybe not. But as soon as he finds out you have a boyfriend, he gets competitive. He tries to cover up any hint of interest he may have given so that you don’t look like you have the power and he doesn’t look pathetic. Then he’ll start going on about this girl he’s seeing and how great all the sex they have is and how she just loves sex so much. This guy is insecure.
5. Sorry, I’ve got to go.
This is the awkward but polite departure. After he finds out you have a boyfriend, he doesn’t react at all. Then about 10 seconds later, he excuses himself politely. This guy is like number 1, but with manners. Or number 2 with humility. He is out looking for someone to pick up and when he finds out you are not a prospective partner, he moves on.
6. Let’s be friends.
Some guys are happy to spend some platonic time with you. This guy is obviously not just looking for a cheap hook up, not up himself and not threatened by someone else’s relationship status. Don’t worry, not everyone is trying to hit on you.
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