We meet new people all the time, every single day. Meeting new people is not something foreign to us. However, when we get close to someone, we have to play the so-called ‘dating game’. We don’t play any games when we want to be friends with someone, yet we have to follow rules when we are going to be more than friends. We all become players.
Generally, when children play games, they have a desire to achieve something at the end; but are there any real achievements in dating someone? It is not like there is a level by level option, or a few bonus points to gain along the way and get a high score.
Apparently, the most important rule is to play hard to get. Don’t act too interested and never show them your soft side; that is just weak. We have to act like we are not interested so that they will be interested. It doesn’t make much sense in reality. We have to be cruel to be kind and we have to look sexy and act like we don’t care about anything. How does this work? If we all play the game, what will happen? Will no one ever take a chance? Personally, I take so many chances that I never miss out on anything. I never have to look back and say ‘what if?’.
Part of playing hard to get is ignoring the other person. You cannot call them. Unless, of course, you are a guy, because he has to call the girl, that is just the rules. As a result, so many girls then get quite attached to their iPhones and feel as though they need to frantically have it charged (I rarely have my phone charged and I don’t have an iPhone, so this issue doesn’t affect me). So ladies, it might be best to turn off the phone for a few days and lock it away in a drawer or in the glove box. If all else fails and he doesn’t call, then hit the clubs and leave the tub of unwanted calories in the freezer. There is another guy waiting out there for a girl like you. As for the guys, if she blows you off, let her have it that way. There are plenty more ladies looking for a guy like you too. Besides, dancing with a partner at the club is better than dancing alone.
A little advice for the future is to give up the game, just once. If there were no games, everything would be more direct. There wouldn’t be any need to write endless books titled ‘Does he like me?’, ‘Finding Mr Right’ and ‘Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars’. There would be no need to read signals and find a spark. Follow your mind and have some confidence in yourself. There are too many rules to follow, it is time to give it up, because the game gets old and tired and at the end of a night a player always wakes up alone.
To be honest, if he/she is not willing to hang out with you outside of the club, they are not worth it. There are plenty more genuine people out there. Everyone just needs to find their perfect match. He/she may not be Mr Right or Mrs Right, but if they are Mr Right Now or Mrs Right Now, than that should be good enough.
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