Okay, so most of us have been in that awkward position where we’re out at a nightclub or bar with one of our friends, and then next minute some random guy approaches her and they start talking. At that point, you’re just lingering there, trying not to interfere, but at the same time, you feel exactly like Dupree (from the movie You, Me And Dupree), and you don’t know whether to jump into the conversation (I advise you not to, because you’re most likely going to be that pesty little sibling that ends up being annoying), or to awkwardly walk away and figure out what to do all by yourself. Decisions, decisions.
I honestly would recommend the second option, because you can still make the most of your night out even if you’re by yourself. I mean, you can try to stick with your mate while she’s chatting to this guy that she’s just met, and if he’s a decent person he might try to include you in the conversation as well just for the sake of being nice, but I reckon just give them some time to get to know each other personally. Meanwhile, you can make a beeline to the bar and buy yourself a drink, and you’d be surprised at how much more approachable you can be when you’re alone as well. Men usually feel more confident to approach a woman when she’s by herself, because it’s not as daunting as approaching her while her friend is there or if she’s in a group (which is even more nerve-wracking).
Even if you don’t want to pick up, you can easily converse with people at the bar while you’re waiting for your drink to be made. Then as you’re chatting with these people and enjoying your drink, a good song might come on and you’ll decide that you want to hit the dance floor with them, and it’s the perfect atmosphere to just let your hair loose and have a good night.
Honestly, you’re all most likely going to be intoxicated anyway, so don’t overthink that awkwardness that you’d otherwise feel about dancing with somebody that you’ve only known for like five minutes. This is why people go to nightclubs, so that they can throw their daily social etiquette out the window and have a wacky fun night. Unless you’re at a really classy place where presentation is highlighted upon and you have to maintain a more refined attitude, nobody is going to judge you for wanting to party it up with them. As a matter of fact, they’re most likely going to love the fun vibes that you’ll be projecting to them, as you show them that you’ve got the moves like Jagger.
If you don’t like the vibes that you’re getting from the people that you’re talking to, it’s okay for you to claim that you need to go to the bathroom or that you need to find your friend, and then escape those people. You can sit down on one of the lounges and just enjoy your drink, and maybe answer your texts and flick through your Facebook feed while you’re at it – but honestly, you don’t have to spend the whole night on your phone; after all, the night is young and you’re out to enjoy yourself, not post statuses about how depressing your night is and how your best friend ditched you for a guy. Have a wander through the nightclub or bar (the more levels, the merrier!), check out all the potentials; you’ve honestly got nothing to lose, and you just never know who might decide to make eye contact with you.
When you’re out, you should try to make the most of every moment, because there’s nothing like a good party atmosphere to get your endorphins raging. Just be sure to check on your phone occasionally, because sometimes the guy that your mate has picked up might end up being a douchebag or a weirdo, and that’s when you have to swoop in and save the damsel in distress. After all, what are friends for?