If you are attempting to plan a hen’s night, here is one important tip: IT IS NOT LIKE THE MOVIES! You will not be kidnapping the bride and taking her to a strip show. Sorry to disappoint you.
1. Ask The Bride Her Opinion
Some brides might not want to have much input, which is fine, but details such as the guest list you should seek the bride’s help. There might be certain guests that were courtesy invites to the wedding and she doesn’t want them at her hen’s night. Similarly, there maybe guests that had invited her to their own hen’s night and she feels that they must be invited. Does she want her mother and future mother in law there? Likewise for the groom’s sister’s, etc. You also do not want to make the mistake of inviting someone that didn’t end up making the final list for the wedding or there could be people that cannot attend the wedding but that the bride would want to share her hen’s night with.
2. Know Who’s Coming
Once you have the guest list sorted, keep in mind who is coming when you start to plan the night. If the elderly mother of the groom is coming too, a strip show might not want to be how the bride bonds with her future mother in law. Again, ask the bride if she has any thoughts on what she would like.
3. When To Have The Hen’s Night
Sometimes it’s the week out from the wedding or on the same night as the buck’s night, but there is no golden rule. Some considerations could be: are there a lot of people travelling to come to the wedding and the hen’s? If there are several interstate guests coming to the hen’s night, you do not want the hen’s night to be a week out from the wedding. It can be too expensive for guests to either stay in hotels for the remained of the time until the wedding or to fly back and then fly back in several days later especially if it is a younger crowd and they casually employed. Do the guests have young children? If so, it may not be a viable option to have the hen’s and buck’s on the same night if their partners are also attending the bucks. They might not be comfortable leaving their young children with a sitter and as such might elect not to attend.
Planning a hen’s night is not as easy as the movies make it out to be, there is quite a fair amount of work involved. I am currently planning my best friend’s hen’s night and as she does have her future mother in law coming and wanted something a bit classier an option I have stumbled across is the Races, Coach and Wildboy’s package from hensnight.com.au. It has the races and champagne in the morning with a coach to shuffle guests but then in the evening it is a Wildboy party boat and free nightclub entry after the cruise. It is the best of both worlds!
So don’t be too disappointed that it might not be the crazy night you were thinking, there are always options that will please mostly everyone. You just have to look for them. Happy hunting!