Crossing the unwritten rule and forbidden barrier of ‘hooking up’ with a friend’s ex, may result in some serious repercussions by the perpetrator. This is not a topic to be considered in black and white, nor is this a decision that should be made quickly. Dating, let only sleeping with a friend’s ex, could result in the termination of a friendship.
When the ‘issue’ arises, there are three points of consideration that must be reflected upon before action is taken, these are:
1. Wake Up! Others’ Feelings Are Involved
You may be in love, you may be just along for the ‘ride’. However, the most important factor to consider and figure out is, what are your friend’s emotions? If they still retain ambivalent affection and regret for him or her, then you are wading into treacherous waters. It is undeniably crucial to determine what your feelings are towards your friendship. If you personally ‘care’ about the friendship at hand, then you will hopefully come to the realisation that it is an unwritten rule that you do not touch a best friend’s ex. Therefore, the rule stands as is: If he or she is your best friend and they still have feelings for their ex, then you simply do not hook-up with the ex.
2. Happiness Verses Happiness
If pursuing a friend’s ex becomes your life necessity, then you must reflect upon your own selfish tendencies and see if the decision will truly make you content. If you personally believe your friend’s ex is perfect for you and you are convinced that you are a better couple, the question to ask yourself is, “Should I give up on this feeling?” It would be completely idiotic to say situations such as these never work out, because there is a slight possibility they might. However, one must ask themselves if the risk will outweigh the gain. Remember, never to tell yourself, “Well if the situation was the other way around, my friend would totally do the same to me.” You have no proof, let alone any idea, of what your friend might do. They may actually be a better person than you…
3. Bros Before Hoes? Chicks Before Dicks?
From the set of How I Met Your Mother, the conceptual idea of Barney’s ‘Bro Code’ is easily translatable into everyday life. Simply, in layman’s terms, girlfriends stick together and should put girlfriends before any man, and vice versa. It seems as though, for men, when compared to women, strictly do not care as much. This may be due to the fact men are from Mars and women are from Venus. However, the notion, in this case, is that friendship should maintain priority over a relationship with the other sex. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!
There are thousands of reasons as to why ‘hooking-up’ with a friend’s ex is wrong. Ranging from the morally and ethically incorrect to the plain and simple, ‘friendship should last forever’. Therefore, to keep life simple and to avoid the wrath of ‘keyboard warriors’, one should refrain from ‘hooking-up’ with a friend’s ex. The potentially deadly circumstances of one’s chosen actions may result in some serious spanking, and not the kinky kind.