Things are pretty easy for the guys at clubs. They look good without too much effort and pick up the chicks all of the time, using one liners to woo them. The ‘how to pick up a girl’ gene is genetically programmed into most guys.
Society is no longer male dominated, meaning that females too have the power to pick up guys. If women can have men’s jobs, why can’t they have the confidence to ask a guy out? The boys always have to start off by asking the girl out and then ‘wining and dining’ her, but the 21st century has changed this completely.
Confidence is the key to successfully asking anyone out. Whether it’s your best friend or the guy next door there is always a way to ask them out. Although it may seem nerve-racking there is no disadvantage to having a go at something.
The snake and the human rule will apply when asking a guy out. He is probably just as scared of asking you out. If you make the first move then he may be less reluctant to open up to you. Guys generally get rejected more often than girls do, so there is not much for a girl to be afraid of.
To begin you need to make sure that the setting is right, or if the setting is too loud or uncomfortable wait for the right moment. Sometimes you may not have time to wait and you may have to go for it, so show off some confidence. It always does the charm. He should look relaxed and not too busy; you don’t want to distract him from what he is doing. This is why nightclubs are the most popular places to ask someone out, because everyone is usually full of alcohol, really relaxed and not too busy.
Next you need to know how to respond to his answer. Some questions can get very vague responses, so it is best to make sure that you are asking the right question. Some ice-breaker questions could be: ‘How are you?’ and ‘What have you been up to?’ or ‘What are you drinking?’ These questions offer an open response. Therefore you should be able to get more than one syllable out of the guy.
Most importantly the first response can be a major signal that suggests how the guy feels about you. If he smiles, introduces himself or turns to you then he is generally interested in what you are trying to say. On the other hand, if he looks away, ignores you or gives you a short sharp answer then he may not be worth pursuing.
If he does go for it make sure you keep him talking. Let the conversation flow on and keep eye contact with him. As the conversation starts to get heated and more in depth you can start to use body language to show you interest. Don’t jump on him, but lean in towards him or put your hand on his shoulder when you laugh at his jokes. Body language can be one of the best flirting tools.
To continue to see if he is interested as him to dance and let the night take its course. If he doesn’t offer you his number you can ask to exchange numbers or if go for it and ask him out.
Don’t forget about the confidence rule ladies!!!
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