I always wanna “HA-HA” a la Nelson Muntz from The Simpsons when people that ask questions like this. Like those people who go out and spend $8.50 on Cosmo to read the advice columns and not to get the free shitty mascara or whatever they’re giving away and read the sealed section, which is really the only tenable reason to be spending that much money on tabloid shit. ‘Does He Really Love Me?’, ‘How To Tame A Player’, ‘How To Deal With Moving In Together’, do you not have loftier ambitions for yourself? I will help you… 1. If you have to ask, no. 2. You can’t tame a player, if he can’t keep it in his pants, he just doesn’t really like you that much. 3. Stop asking paper for advice and go and clean up the shit you left around the house and maybe light some candles to create some ambiance.
Anyway, I thought about it and the dilemma of whether it is socially acceptable or kind of stalkerish to add your Saturday night hook up actually differs to Cosmo’s ‘our struggles’ psuedo-thearpy series. You might have the lofty ambition of tracking down your true love and are understandably nervous and that is perfectly normal and admirable and I hope they love you back.
So, there are some things to consider, but the most important factor in any situation is YOLO/no regrets/live and learn and so on and so forth. Do whatever you think is right and follow your heart lest you turn 40, alone, regretting the time you didn’t hunt down that person on Facebook and live with the burden for the rest of your life. If you are O.K. with that fate ,please leave this website. (Jks you can kick it).
QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF BEFORE ADDING A HOOK UP ON FB
- How much effort did you have to go to to track them down? Are they friends of friends or was it a full fledged FBI style investigation where you had to stalk backlogged tagged club photos for identification? I mean, how creepy are you going to seem?
- Why are you having to add them on FB? Or, why don’t you have their phone number? If you were separated in a cruel twist of fate and you didn’t get a chance to formally do the awkward let’s meet up again thing, adding them on Facebook would be okay. If they ran away from you in distress, maybe let this ship sail. Similarly, if they have your number and you have not heard from them, the Facebook move is not going to do you any favours.
- What are you going to say when they ask you, “How did you find me on Facebook?” Are you going to tell them how you spent hours searching the many ways to spell Jamie/Jaimi/Jayme/Jaymie? Be prepared for this. There is no use praying for mutual friends that do not exist.
- Why are you freaking out so much? At the end of the day, it is just Facebook, it really isn’t that big of a deal. What have you got to loose? Nothing. You may experience a few moments of discomfort over some weird PMs, but whatever, the distress this causes will end there. CHILL.