Single, looking to mingle? But keep hearing from your mates, “You are not going to find your future husband/wife at (insert club/bar of choice)”. This, often,or not, can be off-putting to the single ladies and gents looking for something serious. But is this really the case?
I don’t need any census survey to support this statement but a lot people between 18-30 demographic will hit a bar, or rock out at a nightclub, to meet new people. With this being said, why is there a lot of people saying that these are the wrong places, for young and single people, to find the love of their lives? The answer lies in the culture of the nightlife, in general-and not just for people between 18-30. Let’s be honest, there are people, at these places, looking for a one-night stand or a casual fling. And most young people want to have fun, and the thought of walking down the aisle would often scare the shit out of them. So if you’ve either been burnt, or scored hard, you’re just another contributing factor of why some decent people may be put off altogether-and not looking, on the night.
Despite the culture just being an inconvenient truth to some, this by any stretch does not mean that there aren’t good people to find at such places. First of all, let’s look at how most long-term relationships start-with a meeting. Now this location is always purely arbitrary-it could a bus stop or even a foot path down the street from where you live. Going by this, we shouldn’t be ruling out the places in question such as clubs, bars or even events such as Stereosonic. If you don’t try-and if by trying that means being rejected ten times on the night-you are never going to know if there is one person there that’s just like you-looking for something serious.
Not everybody is the same and looking for the same thing, yet we always tend to let negative connotations discourage us. Ultimately, it depends on the individual if they’re going to try and put themselves out there, or if they are going to curl themselves up and shy away in the corner. If you really believe it can happen, it will. But if you don’t, it won’t. There will always be an opportunity unaccounted for-not just at a bar or a nightclub.
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